You need a healthy ego to consider yourself worthy to be the President of the United States of America. How many of us believe we have the smarts, temperament, resilience, education, energy, sophistication, negotiating skills, diplomacy, critical thinking skills, judgment, patience, and whatever other social skills are necessary to lead a nation of 324 million?
A president’s responsibilities are awe inspiring. The nation’s security, military, money, and infrastructure are just a few of the burdens shouldered by the commander-in-chief. Sleepless nights must come part and parcel with the job. Stepping into the shoes of the likes of George Washington, Abraham Lincoln and Thomas Jefferson has to be sobering.
Past leaders have forwarded monumental causes like justice, independent thought, freedom, equality, economics, and unbelievable breakthroughs in science. They have held their heads high with pride and cradled their heads in defeat. Four presidents have been assassinated, two wounded during assassination attempts, and there have been over thirty assassination attempts made on sitting and former presidents.
Being the President of the United States of America is weighty and serious. A president’s social skills matter.
So, could someone please explain to me why the leader of the free world has the time to squabble with antagonistic reporters?
(tweet 2) “to Mar-a-Lago 3 nights in a row around New Year’s Eve, and insisted on joining me. She was bleeding badly from a face-lift. I said no!”
What would President Thomas Jefferson, a Founding Father and primary author of the Declaration of Independence, say if he learned that our current president was bickering with “Psycho Joe” when we have 150,560 military personnel deployed around the world? Our troops are laying down their lives for the safety and freedom of our nation and our president is bickering like a ten-year-old.
Taking the bait dangled in front of him by giggling, goading reporters dishonors the office of the President of the United States. He sends a message about appropriate and inappropriate social skills to the world. Each goofy tweet he taps into his phone, chips away at his statesmanship and belittles the office. Citizens read his tweets and snicker no matter what side of the aisle they fall.
When a person takes the oath of office, like it or not, he chooses to be saddled with the burden of being a role model to men, women and children across the globe. He chooses to carry on the tradition of two hundred twenty-eight years of American leadership. He honors the presidents before him who agonized over grave decisions, brave members of the military who risk or have lost their lives for us, concerned citizens who rely on him to lead with dignity, strength, and a clear head, and foreign heads of state who count on him to be rational and unwavering. He is a role model for all the eager children who declare, “I am going to be the president when I grow up!”
There is no question that being the President of the United States of America is a thankless one. The scrutiny is unending and critics are merciless. For a social skills lesson from the best, I suggest our commander-in-chief visit the United States Army website https://www.goarmy.com/soldier-life/being-a-soldier/living-the-army-values.html and review the values that he expects our eighteen-year-old soldiers to learn and adhere. If the boss expects flawless social skills from teenagers willing to lay down their lives for the security of our nation, he owes it to them to model those same values every day, every hour and every minute during his term. Great Presidents model perfect social skills and are role models for the rest of us.
I have included the Army Values below because they embody the reasons we practice social skills. My high school military school cadet knows these values by heart and told me that the acronym to remember them is LEADERSHIP: Loyalty, Duty, Respect, Selfless Service, Honor, Integrity Personal Courage. I’m so proud that my fifteen-year-old son is well versed in these beautiful virtues.
LIVING THE ARMY VALUES
It Means You Live Up To A Higher Standard
Many people know what the words Loyalty, Duty, Respect, Selfless Service, Honor, Integrity, and Personal Courage mean. But how often do you see someone actually live up to them? Soldiers learn these values in detail during Basic Combat Training (BCT), from then on they live them every day in everything they do — whether they’re on the job or off. In short, the Seven Core Army Values listed below are what being a Soldier
Bear true faith and allegiance to the U.S. Constitution, the Army, your unit and other Soldiers. Bearing true faith and allegiance is a matter of believing in and devoting yourself to something or someone. A loyal Soldier is one who supports the leadership and stands up for fellow Soldiers. By wearing the uniform of the U.S. Army you are expressing your loyalty. And by doing your share, you show your loyalty to your unit.
Fulfill your obligations. Doing your duty means more than carrying out your assigned tasks. Duty means being able to accomplish tasks as part of a team. The work of the U.S. Army is a complex combination of missions, tasks and responsibilities — all in constant motion. Our work entails building one assignment onto another. You fulfill your obligations as a part of your unit every time you resist the temptation to take “shortcuts” that might undermine the integrity of the final product.
Treat people as they should be treated. In the Soldier’s Code, we pledge to “treat others with dignity and respect while expecting others to do the same.” Respect is what allows us to appreciate the best in other people. Respect is trusting that all people have done their jobs and fulfilled their duty. And self-respect is a vital ingredient with the Army value of respect, which results from knowing you have put forth your best effort. The Army is one team and each of us has something to contribute.
Put the welfare of the Nation, the Army and your subordinates before your own. Selfless service is larger than just one person. In serving your country, you are doing your duty loyally without thought of recognition or gain. The basic building block of selfless service is the commitment of each team member to go a little further, endure a little longer, and look a little closer to see how he or she can add to the effort.
Live up to Army values. The Nation’s highest military award is The Medal of Honor. This award goes to Soldiers who make honor a matter of daily living — Soldiers who develop the habit of being honorable, and solidify that habit with every value choice they make. Honor is a matter of carrying out, acting, and living the values of respect, duty, loyalty, selfless service, integrity and personal courage in everything you do.
Do what’s right, legally and morally. Integrity is a quality you develop by adhering to moral principles. It requires that you do and say nothing that deceives others. As your integrity grows, so does the trust others place in you. The more choices you make based on integrity, the more this highly prized value will affect your relationships with family and friends, and, finally, the fundamental acceptance of yourself.
Face fear, danger or adversity (physical or moral). Personal courage has long been associated with our Army. With physical courage, it is a matter of enduring physical duress and at times risking personal safety. Facing moral fear or adversity may be a long, slow process of continuing forward on the right path, especially if taking those actions is not popular with others. You can build your personal courage by daily standing up for and acting upon the things that you know are honorable.
If you believe that modeling social skills is important and you would like to model and teach social skills to children and teach social skills to teens then choose one of our certified social skills training programs today. Our online learning programs make it easy to start immediately. We are responsible for helping our children develop character, integrity and good values. We are accredited by the International Association of Continuing Education and Training (IACET) assuring you that we uphold the highest standards in training. CEUs are available for those who need them.