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Texas mom needs a social skills curriculum for elementary school.

Shelly McCullar, the mother of a 10-year-old, says she sent her son to school, inadvertently, in a lewd t-shirt. The provocative shirt depicted the iconic McDonald’s “golden arches” using an illustration of a woman’s spread legs, knees up, stiletto heels…use your imagination.  Highly inappropriate for an elementary school, to say the least. It seems she may want to borrow a social skills curriculum for elementary school.

Ms. McCullar claims she had been given a box of hand-me-down clothes and her son grabbed a shirt, threw it on, and headed off to school without her realizing he was wearing the offensive item.

Let’s give her the benefit of the doubt. She wasn’t paying attention and off he went to school in an offensive tee. Big deal in the grand scheme of things. Worst case scenario, the teachers make crude jokes in the teacher’s lounge for a couple of days and then the whole incident blows over. Perhaps she considers taking a glance at a social skills curriculum for elementary school to better understand appropriate school attire.

Unfortunately, what happened next is the stuff of bad television sitcoms.

Shelly McCullar compounded the problem 100,000 fold.

Driving home just how well-tuned her parenting instincts are, McCullar decided to deliver an apology to her son’s teachers publicly on Facebook replete with a picture of her son in the tasteless tee. Apparently, she was under the impression that the elementary school had not been offended enough by the shirt the first time around. (She really does need to be taken through a social skills curriculum for elementary school.)

And what do you think happened? Of course, the image went viral.

Shelly McCullar

Last Wednesday

Once again, my sincere apologies to the teachers and staff at Travis Elementary. I promise from now on to monitor what my kids are wearing! I had no idea (my son) wore this to school!!

Just to clarify, I would never let my kid wear something like this. A friend had given me some hand me down clothes for (my son). I haven’t had the chance to completely go through them. I will tonight though!!

Through my embarrassment, I did lmao!!

Golden Arches that won't get a child in trouble

This isn’t the image McCullar posted…

Her post has been viewed over 100,000 times. Because of her over 100,000 people have now seen McCullar’s little boy wearing a sexist and offensive image on his young self.

Question: If she would “never let her kid wear kid wear something like this” why did she let her kid wear something like this…and then post it online for 100,000+ people to see? 

Answer: Cognitive dissonance: the state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes, especially as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change.

McCullar is “laughing her a#*! off” but really she should be weeping. The unflattering image of her son, that she finds so hilarious, will be circulating in cyberspace forever. This is the image that she wants to surface when future colleges and employers are researching his name. If it weren’t she never would have posted it. Why doesn’t she understand the power of social media?

Most parents want their children to be seen in a positive light: playing sports, sitting at the piano, holding up a wonderful report card or hugging a puppy. Not MCCullar, she wants the world to see her little boy wearing a t-shirt with the image of a women’s legs spread wide and the caption, “I’m Loving It” emblazoned across his chest.

If she thought the situation was so funny, why didn’t she put the shirt on and post herself in it? She could have told the story and said that she is wearing the impolite shirt he wore to school. You know why she didn’t do that? Because she would never be caught in public wearing that shirt. McCullar had a laugh at her 10-year-old’s expensive.

What about her son? What say did he have? What ten-year-old could possibly understand the sexual message of that tee-shirt or the social ramifications of posting his image online?

McCullar’s act seems hostile, humiliating and self-serving. She didn’t stop to think about the potential cost to her son now and in the future. She wanted a popular post with lots and lots of comments telling her what a great mom she is and how crazy funny she is…she got it. Responses were positive-it is easy to laugh it off when your child is not the butt of the viral joke.

Parents should already have passed a social skills curriculum for elementary school, middle school, high school and beyond long before having children.

Children count on their parents to always have their best interests at heart. Parents are not supposed to exploit and embarrass their children. Parents are supposed to use their critical thinking skills to determine whether or not their decisions will have a positive or negative effect on their children. That is why parenting is such a serious endeavor.

We use good social skills to show that we have respect for one another. Posting an image of a child in a derogatory situation doesn’t show him any respect. It is true that children are resilient and strong however they are also sensitive and impressionable. Making an innocent child the punchline of an adult joke is mean and disrespectful.

With regard to the responses on social media to McCullar’s post, I am disappointed. We have an unwritten social contract that allows us to live among one another peacefully. That social contract includes an agreement that we protect our innocent members from all harm. Instead of laughing with Shelly McCullar, why didn’t the people commenting stand up for her son and say, “Hey, lady, take that image down. It is not appropriate to post an image of your precious little boy in that rude t-shirt. He deserves better.”

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